I’m not much of a supporter of New Year’s resolutions.
I didn’t bother posting a top 10 list of the things I’m going to do this year. It’s not that I don’t have goals for myself, but I have this thing about not setting myself up for disappointment.
Some might think it a bit dark or negative but if you don’t set unreasonable goals for yourself, then you’ll be less likely to beat yourself up about not completing them.
Like the person who promises themselves that they will go to the gym 4 times a week but then ends up only going twice, feels bad about it and ends up eating an entire cake and never going to the gym again.
I would rather say, “I’ll be happy with myself if I go for a couple of walks this week.” If I go every day, great! If I go twice because it was raining a lot during the week, oh well.
I don’t see it as unmotivated, I just don’t see the point of making yourself feel bad and making your motivation even worse than it was before.
Or spending $100 on a gym membership that you’re going to use 3 times and then tell yourself you’re going to go tomorrow. And then tomorrow.
Why not just buy a 10 punch pass and use that? Congratulate yourself if you use it up! At least you can build a habit before committing your unmotivated self to that sort of financial burden.
The main reason for my attitude on the subject right now is my unwillingness to let myself be weighed down by my miscarriages.
I saw a bunch of Twitter posts over the last week similar to this:
Do I want myself to be burdened by the possibility that this may not happen?
I would rather let things happen as they are supposed to, rather than set a goal that may just disappoint me over and over again.
Do I have a positive outlook about the coming year? Absolutely I do.
But I think it would be unfair to my emotional self to set up this coming year as the one where we have to start a family.
As women, we face so many pressures already. To dress well, take care of ourselves, take care of our families, keep in contact with friends, keep a tidy home, have a career.. the list goes on. Even if no one is telling you to do these things, I’m sure you subconsciously feel most of them.
If I make a resolution this year, it will be to put less pressure on myself. To let things happen as they are supposed to. To be happy with the things that I complete and to not be disappointed in the things that I don’t.